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Wednesday, February 19, 2014

It’s all that matters in the end..


Is it just ME, or do you, too, use the word ‘friend’ thoughtfully and with great discern?

I remember back in my Elementary School days (also known as Grammar School because – and here’s the funny part – they actually taught us grammar!) when Valentines’ day came around and my Mom would buy boxes of tiny little Valentine’s cards so that we each (of the girls!)  had enough to write one for every one of our classmates.  On Valentine’s Day morning, classmates walked up and down the aisles of desks placing a “?” greeting on every desk.  We wanted everyone to feel happy!

As the years piled on, it became less cool for this tradition to continue.

Valentine’s Day greetings grew fewer and farther between, all while we convinced each other - and ourselves -  that this meant someone reeealy liked you!  HMMMMM.

My hometown has its own Facebook pages and hundreds of former townmates, classmates and teammates share stories, memories, throwing out the occasion “who was_____” query.  Sometimes frustrating but always fun!

Last week, I viewed some classic class pictures.  I recognized all the faces, but it was hard to remember the names of all my former Valentines!  I am always curious as to who else may be doing the same thing with the photos I am pictured in!! 

Eventually, I was able to match names and faces and was left wondering where these people are and what they may be doing.

Then there is the handful of those you could never forget – not that you would ever try – or want to.   They are those who, regardless of the miles that may separate you, are always there for you before you even ask.  They just know when you might be needing them and they are usually right.

I am blessed with two ‘real’ sisters.  In addition, I am richly blessed with a handful of friends with whom I have shared life:  the surprises, good and bad, the shocks, the gains, the losses…LIFE.  While we certainly share so much history, we cannot imagine the future without each other.  FRIENDS!

They are those who don’t keep score, don’t track who was the last to call the other and with whom you pick up right where you left off.  You know each other’s brothers and sisters name,  who’s where and who’s doing what; because you care.  FRIENDS!

Unlike many men, who seem to be able to find a new best friend on demand, women approach friendship quite differently.   We define it more finely, we nurture it more thoroughly and are slow to give it up.

Author William Arthur Ward (1921 – 1994) put it brilliantly

“A true friend knows your weaknesses, but show you your strengths, feels your fears but fortifies your faith, sees your anxieties but frees your spirit, recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities."

Sadly, I have reached that point in life that connects us to our own mortality as we have gone through the loss of many of our friends’ parents and now face loss within our own generation.  The depth of that pain equals the height of the love we will forever feel for that friend.  That’s how you know you were blessed to have had a friend.

So, IS it just me, or do you, too, feel blessed to have at least one person in your life that you can call a true friend?  Cherish it.  Take care of it.  Be forever grateful because of it; because of friendship.


               Forever Reliable In (the) END


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