Is it
just ME, or do you, too feel pain in our heart when women refer to themselves as
failures?
It hurts!
I ‘attended’ a
wonderful Teleclass this week sponsored by our community partner, Women’s
Prosperity Network (WPN). Hosted by three amazing ‘real life’ sisters, Nancy,
Susan and Trish, wonderful stories were told and meaningful, relatable
metaphors shared. Truly inspiring.
The lines were opened
for participation and many women stepped forward. With bold and honest words, they shared their
feelings, their “her”spectives - and
their pain. Many spoke of their
failures.
I put myself in the cue
but time ran out before I had the opportunity to share these thoughts:
FAILURE is not the
opposite of success. Read it again,
please: FAILURE is not the opposite of
success.
By connotation, that
statement may seem hard to digest, even contradicting, yet, I firmly believe it
and stand by it.
Failure is a state of
mind, a temporary condition; unless, of course, one is looking for a reason to
stop trying. That’s a whole different state of mind!
I think of this
“f-word” (don’t even like to put it out
there) as a series of successive attempts that perhaps didn’t achieve
exactly what you were hoping for or didn’t take you as far as may have wished. These temporary holding patters do, however,
serve you well - if you see what they are really about: they get you one step,
albeit a potentially painful and disappointing one, CLOSER to what you perceive
success to be. That’s not a bad
thing. (I love crossing things
off my list of things to do. I love
crossing things off my list of things to try.)
Then, you must try again…and
again…and again. If your why and the
passion driving you is strong enough, you will not stop trying. You don’t keep trying until you fail, silly;
you try until you succeed. Better yet,
you keep going until you build a higher mountain – you just keep climbing. When you look back, you don’t see where you
stumbled; you see how far you’ve come. That’s success!
We sometimes hear of
those ‘overnight success’ stories, often in the world of entertainment. Then, you hear the back-story of how it took 10, 20, 30 years of rejection
and disappointment to become an ‘overnight success’. Trust me, there is no true overnight success;
we call them ‘one-song wonders’.
I offer that you be
careful about what you put out to the universe.
If you are using words, such as failure, to describe yourself, you are
actually defining your belief system.
Your belief system is your reality and the result of your thoughts. If
you think you are a failure………. You think, therefore you are!
Wherever you are on
your road to your next success, whatever number your next attempt may be,
remember to celebrate the small steps already behind you; each has brought you
one step closer, one step beyond where you used to be.
So, IS it
just me, or do you, too, recognize moments
of successful attempts in your life, in your career, in the relationships you
are trying to build? Sure you do. Celebrate them…then start moving again.
Countless,
consecutive steps
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